Q: I’ve been dating a beautiful, sexy, fun loving, sweet, charming, smart young lady for about 6 months now. She’s a college grad and has a 6 figure job as a sales manager in the area. She’s one of the most exciting women I have met, especially compared to all the women I’ve met here in my hometown Seattle. She’s a small town girl but open minded like a big city girl. I, on the other hand, have only a high school degree and work a minimum wage job. She never brings up the money issue and we always go to really nice restaurants and we go dutch. I can’t even afford to treat her. She could have any other guy, but she’s chosen to stay with me, for now anyways. I’d love to marry her one day, but I don’t have much to offer her. She tells me she loves the carefree, relaxed, sweet, fun, and charming person I am, but to me, that means nothing without a college degree. And, she’s told me that in the physical department, she’s completely satisfied and she beams when she says it. Should I continue dating her? How do I keep her?

A: Ooh la la. Sounds like quite the charming relationship. And on top of that, I don’t hear that you’re having relationship problems, which is always a plus. It sounds more as if you’re the one being insecure and unsure of yourself. You have ‘nothing to offer her’. Nothing? Really? That’s a bit of an exaggeration, you’d have to be a pretty big jerk to be capable of that. You may not have money to offer her, but she’s made it clear that what you bring to the table (carefree, relax, sweet, charming, etc) is what she wants. Does she ask you and complain about this issue? If she does, then that’s a red zone. But if she’s not, no need to try to fix what’s not broken. And a little reading for you, would be to read ‘Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman and understand that people have different giving and receiving languages. And maybe your giving language is to want to give her gifts, but what she really wants to receive is physical acts. And if you’re handling business there, that’s all some women need. But, you can do other things to make sure you keep your woman wowed! Do the small things, women love that; make her a paper flower, draw her one, write a love letter, surprise her and take her to a picnic. Shoot, grab some flowers from someone’s yard and hand those big boys over to her. I guarantee she’ll love it, ’cause it’s the thought that counts. You’ve got a smart woman on your hands, and if that’s what you want, then you need to suck up that ego and accept she’ll be the breadwinner. And if you’re feeling that insecure, then take a chance and go back to school and get a degree if that’s a dream of yours. Otherwise, just continue being you and doing the small things. Don’t let the fact that she is accomplished and driven interfere with your self-worth. Everybody has something to offer someone else, it’s just a matter of finding the right person to give your gift to. And if she’s happy in the bedroom, keep doing what you’re doing bad boy, most women would kill to have that! Peace, paper flowers, and love letters!


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2 Responses to Breadeater

  1. “Love means not ever having to say you’re sorry.” ~ Erich Segal

    • I would say agree to that, but not for what it says now. I’d say I agree because it implies something deeper. Love means forgiveness, it’s a daily struggle to love and forgive the one you treasure. But, instead of saying sorry, because that does nothing to ratify things, one that is in love should ask for forgiveness. For in asking for forgiveness, one humbles themselves before their love and seeks their approval for forgiveness and letting go. Beautiful concept. Hope you’re keeping up with us daily, we constantly have new stories to post. Please like us on facebook at:

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