Love at First Sight

QUESTION:

I recently started dating a really great guy. Things are literally PERFECT! We have great chemistry. We can talk for hours on end. We are really close but have only been dating a few weeks. We feel like we’ve known each other and when we’re together we’re always gazing into each other’s eyes. On our first date, we stood in front of my house while he stood in awe of my outfit. I had put my best effort into wearing some nice stilettos, cute skirt and cute top. He takes care of everything! He pays for everything, he’s a gentleman, and he always makes me feel so beautiful with all the compliments he gives. The wrench in this whole thing is that he’s in special ops in the Air Force. Right now he’s training but will eventually get deployed. He’s afraid to marry me because he doesn’t want me or our future family to endure the difficulties of deployment. Nor does he want to get killed in action. He’s told me he’ll work through his fears but I’m not sure what to do. Do I stay? Do I cut it off now before we get closer? Our relationship and bond is without a doubt, PERFECT!

ARIANA:

Sounds like you dear, have found what many people search the ends of the earth for.  It is rare to have that great bond so early into a relationship.  I have known couples who are now happily married after being in a situation like yours.  But, the difference being the deployment issue.  It sounds like he’s very afraid of something that could possibly happen.  If you are to marry this guy, you have to be ready to accept the fact that he may really be killed in action.  You don’t have to live in constant fear that it will happen, but strong enough to accept that possibility, along with the consequences that affect you.  Whether you stay or not is whether you view this guy as a possibility for marriage, but you will get attached the more time you spend with him.  But, you also have to be sure he really is working through his fears, if it’s not something he’s 100% without a doubt sure he doesn’t want marriage and family, given his service in the Air Force, then there is a possibility it could happen.  And if you’re going to stay, I suggest you tighten up your boot straps and learn to be strong enough to show him you’ll be able to take care of the family even while he’s on deployment.  If you don’t show this, you’ll further prove to him that his fears are right and he may walk.  I’m an all or nothing person.  If you’re going to pursue this relationship, which I suggest you do, then you should put your heart and soul in without thinking about walking until you know you’ve given everything you can.  Dating is tough these times and finding a great guy in this day and age, is tough.  Not impossible, but our society has produced many males who are not prepared for marriage nor fatherhood.  And finally, take it day by day, you don’t know what the future holds.  Try not to get so caught up in the future and life as a military family.  Enjoy your time now as you have been, the moment is now.  You don’t get it back.  And if you’re feeling love so soon after meeting, then I know that moment is probably richer than any you’ve experienced.  Live in the now, take some chances, and you never know where life will take you.  And in the end, you part paths, at least you can have the great memories of a love few will ever have.  Don’t give up on love.  If it’s the real, lasting kind, it won’t give up on you.

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